I (26F) have a brother (24M) who's been in a rough patch. Last month, he lost his job and got evicted from his apartment. I felt bad and let him crash on my couch "temporarily." Well, it's been 5 weeks and he's still here.
Here's the thing - I WFH and my apartment is tiny. Having him here has completely messed up my routine. He sleeps until noon, takes hour-long showers (my water bill is INSANE), and leaves his stuff everywhere. I've tried talking to him about it, but he just says "yeah, sorry" and nothing changes.
The final straw came yesterday. I had an important Zoom meeting with my boss, and he decided to have a loud phone conversation in the living room. When I asked him to keep it down, he rolled his eyes and went outside, but came back 5 mins later complaining about the cold.
After my meeting, I sat him down and told him he needs to find somewhere else to stay by next Friday. I even offered to loan him first month's rent for a new place.
He completely flipped out, saying I'm "throwing him out on the street" and that "family should help family." He called our mom, who now thinks I'm being cruel and heartless.
But like, I didn't sign up to be his permanent roommate? I've helped him for over a month, given him a free place to stay, and he hasn't even been respectful of my space or tried very hard to find a new job.
My friends are split - some think I'm justified in setting boundaries, others think i should give him more time since he's family and struggling. Idk, maybe I'm being selfish, but my mental health is suffering with him here.
So, AITA for giving my brother a deadline to move out?
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